If you are an Introvert and struggling to mingle with people? Then This Article is for You.
I understand your concern but I have a little to say what you should do but I can say what you shouldn’t do. Want to know? Read till the end.
People think that you are an egoist? Even I was misjudged by most people I encounter. So after all these days I no longer have the same doubt because I learned so many things along the way.
These are some things that you should be aware of -
- Don’t worry
- Be a good listener
- Say No to Negative thoughts
- Choose wisely
- Be an Egoist
1. Introvert? Egoist? Don’t worry about that because you will get used to it because? People are so, they judge you with lack of knowledge. Why? It is one of their characteristics, just like being silent is one of yours.
2. You can’t mingle with people? I know we are not conversation starters but if someone does make sure to prolong that conversation by asking questions or doubts or add if you have something.
- You are an introvert, just like me then I assume that you can properly listen to people without interrupting them. As an introvert I assume you can do this with no or little effort.
- Make sure to have a good eye contact because they get to know that you are listening and you’re interested. I learned this over time.
3. You can’t mingle with people? If you think that is your problem then you are in the problem. Yes, you read that right. Don’t feed your subconscious mind with negative thoughts. If you do it reflects the same output i.e. a negative result.
- Be positive. I understand it is not as simple as reading it but with a little effort and patience you’ll start thinking positively and observe the same i.e. Positive results.
4. After sometime you’ll observe that people (some) are a bit closer to you. That is the time you should decide if they are worthy enough to invest your time or not.
- I did this mistake by spending time with people who I shouldn’t and that is because when people started talking a bit more even I did and later ended up wasting a lot of time not only time but others too — Studies, Money (little), etc.
5. Still people think that you are an Egoist? Well, that’s a good news because they are the people you should be far away than you usually be. They are the people that you should consider ignoring. Why? The answer turns out that they are the real egoists. So you know what you shouldn’t, right?
One last thing — I could have said, start talking to people extensively, talk to people even if you don’t want to, talk to everyone, start pleasing people who say that blah blah. But I said right at the beginning that I have a little to say about that because I did all these.
I talked to people whom I shouldn’t, I talked to people even if I don’t like talking, I pretended like I was interested….. On the whole I was acting in front of people and behaving who I’m not, that is the worst thing I did. I wish you don’t do that.
Be who you are because we are not here to please and act for someone but make sure you are learning something and improving with time.
I hope this helps. Thank you.
